The Hardest Truths for Teenagers in Proverbs

A while ago I introduced the teens in our student ministry to this list of 20 truths that I felt hit home with teenage life. We read through the list first in its entirety. Then I asked each student to rank the top three “hardest to keep” truths for them personally. We then broke into groups based on their number one pick to discuss those topics and why they are hard to keep. We prayed for each other and strategized about how to encourage each other on a regular basis in these areas.

So which of these truths do you think ranked in the top three of teenagers most often? Read through for yourself and see what you would choose.  My poll results are at the very bottom of the article. The list is surprising and insightful.

20 Truths for Teenagers in Proverbs:

  1. Take responsibility for your life. If you are wise, you are wise for yourself, and if you scoff, you alone will bear it.” (Prov. 9:12)
  2. Integrity is your guidance. The integrity of the upright will guide them, but the crookedness of the treacherous will destroy them.” (Prov. 11:3)
  3. Shun evil. The prudent sees the evil and hides himself, but the naive go on, and are punished for it.” (Prov. 22:3)
  4. Speak the truth.Do not be a witness against your neighbor without cause, and do not deceive with your lips.” (Prov. 24:28)
  5. Be humble.When pride comes, then comes dishonor, but with the humble is wisdom.”(Prov. 11:2)
  6. Work for your dream. He who tills his land will have plenty of food, but he who follows empty pursuits will have poverty in plenty.” (Prov. 28:19)
  7. Diligence is a key to success.A lazy man does not roast his prey, but the precious possession of a man is diligence.” (Prov. 12:27)
  8. Never give up when facing adversity. “If you are slack in the day of distress, your strength is limited.“(Prov. 24:10)
  9. Learn to control yourself. Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit.” (Prov. 25:28)
  10. Control your anger. He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.” (Prov. 14:29)
  11. Be prudent about your choice.Watch the path of your feet and all your ways will be established.” (Prov. 4:26)
  12. Train your patience. By forbearance a ruler may be persuaded, and a soft tongue breaks the bone.” (Prov. 25:15)
  13. Listen before you speak.He who gives an answer before he hears, it is folly and shame to him.“(Prov. 18:13)
  14. Talk Less, do more. In all labor there is profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” (Prov. 14:23)
  15. Stop gossiping. The words of a whisperer are like dainty morsels, and they go down into the innermost parts of the body.” (Prov. 18:8)
  16. Don’t flatter others.A man who flatters his neighbor is spreading a net for his steps.” (Prov. 29:5)
  17. Pay evil with good.If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.” (Prov. 25:21)
  18. Honor your parents.Let your father and your mother be glad, and let her rejoice who gave birth to you.” (Prov. 23:25)
  19. Choose your companion.He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” (Prov. 13:20)
  20. Do not envy evil men.Do not be envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them.” (Proverb 24:1)

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These five answers were most commonly given as “hardest to keep” truths according to my student group.

  1. Shun evil. The prudent sees the evil and hides himself, but the naive go on, and are punished for it.” (Prov. 22:3)
  2. Honor your parents. “Let your father and your mother be glad, and let her rejoice who gave birth to you.” (Prov. 23:25)
  3. Speak the truth. “Do not be a witness against your neighbor without cause, and do not deceive with your lips.” (Prov. 24:28)
  4. Control your anger. He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.” (Prov. 14:29)
  5. Talk Less, do more. In all labor there is profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” (Prov. 14:23)

Factory vs. Fountain – by Bobby McGraw

A good friend of mine, Bobby McGraw, expands on a sermon his pastor preached about the power of our speech. In this article, we see the book of Proverbs come to life with advice we should all follow.

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My pastor recently spoke about the power of the tongue and it caused me to really think. The Bible says in Proverbs 10:11, “The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.” God obviously loves life. Throughout the pages of scripture he promotes life and not death. What is amazing is this one verse uncovers an often overlooked source of life: THE MOUTH.

Your mouth can be life-giving. Stop and think about that: You can give life!

The writer of Proverbs doesn’t say that your mouth is a FACTORY of life…instead, it’s a FOUNTAIN.

Too many people try to live their lives as a factory. They work. They sweat. They worker harder. They try to produce something that must be manufactured. It does not occur naturally.

That’s the difference between a factory and a fountain. A fountain doesn’t produce something artificial. Instead, it flows. It’s genuine. It’s authentic. A righteous person doesn’t have to work at being a fountain. They don’t have to muster up something artificial. Instead, as a fountain, life simply flows from their lips.

The writer stipulates that not just any mouth is a fountain. It’s the mouth of the righteous. To be righteous is not the same thing as being self-righteous, comparing ourselves to others. It means that we are rooted in God. We trust him, live with him and gain wisdom from him. Righteousness is being in Christ and living by faith in his power and grace and wisdom.

When you have that kind of relationship, Jesus makes your mouth a fountain of life. What is flowing from your mouth?

My pastor suggested three things:
1. Use your mouth to feed – Proverbs 10:21 says, “The lips of the righteous feed many.”
2. Use your mouth to heal – Proverbs 12:18 says, “The tongue of the wise brings healing.”
3. Use your mouth to protect – Proverbs 12:6 says, “The mouth of the upright delivers men.”

How are you doing in this area? Is life is flowing out of your mouth? If it isn’t, realize that it is from your heart that your mouth speaks. Commit to live in God and rely on him this week. Ask him to produce a fresh, living fountain in you.